Life has presented me with so many opportunities to learn and grow from success and failure. I‘m grateful for every moment of it.
Some people love me because I aspire to live out of control and love out of control. I don’t adhere to social norms and cultural expectations. I do my best to listen to love and act on love in the face of others’ judgments.
Yet often the same people fear me because I threaten their control over themselves, other people, perceptions and plans.
Humans will maintain control or bully other humans out of fear and choose a system of toxic shaming to maintain social order. Sadly this fear undermines the capacity to love or trust love.
Control is perceived as an effective remedy to remove a perceived threat.
How is control executed? Through guilt, shame and fear.
My grandmother for example, experienced major guilt, shame and fear for being born a ‘bastard’. She felt the intense control of how families ‘should’ be structured: Mother. Father. Children. Anything else was considered a ‘threat’ to the fabric of society.
The other option is to choose Love over control.
To support and allow people to make their own life choices. To hand back power and choice especially when people attempt to give theirs to you.
Choosing love requires awareness. This is the measurement of our capacity to perceive, feel, know and be cognizant of events or other people’s state of being.
Awareness deepens informed consent, honours healthy boundaries, and knows the line that Love will not cross.
This is what it means to show up for yourself and others as a ferocious and courageous warrior of love, freedom and power.
Love asks this simple question:
“Out of benevolence or arrogance, where have I, individually or in collusion with others, exerted my agenda over an individual or group instead of allowing them their authentic and sovereign choice?”